Every so often one floats into your life.
And when she does, you just... know.
With Alice, I'm not even too sure how it happened. It seemed as though out of nowhere, we were popping up into each other's inboxes, and each time she reached out to me, I found myself LOLing, for real.
Alice is a Holistic Health Legend and Wellness Entrepreneur, but what strikes me most about her is her sense of humour. She is quite literally Burst Out Laughing hilarious. Her presence in this online world makes me giggle, her warmth makes me smile, and her recipes make my tummy grumble. Her instagram feed is full of sass and wit and humble insights, too. Not to mention her often poetic, beautiful contemplation. I adore it.
A mumma bear, an (ex) Party Girl (I mentioned she was a kindred spirit, right?), a wordsmith. But as you'll see from her about page (you'll particularly love the section subtitled The Front Story), and the interview below, she is so much more than that.
Such a pleasure to introduce you to my new, beautiful friend, Alice Nicholls. Enjoy this wonderful interview.
Sum up your mission in one sentence.
I teach women how to live well, heal their bodies and love themselves better, starting today.
Can you share with us one of your most vulnerable moments (and in hindsight, what made it so beautiful)?
For 15 years, I really struggled with a disordered drinking habit.
From 14 years old I would drink and not stop. No off-switch, no ability to regulate. I would be able to drink vast quantities and still be stumbling around trying to hold a conversation. I simply didn't ever have that moment when others may realise they've had enough, and I would want to just keep going - to oblivion. I witnessed this in my house growing up and I believe that it is part genetic disposition and part osmosis - a pretty shitty tradition.
I finally was able to go out and have 'just one or two' at a restaurant or dinner over the last few years, but put me in a party situation and I was ON. I would be one of the last standing, slurring. I would pop pills or do other drugs to keep from being that passed out chick in the corner because that was the only thing to keep me functioning. The ability to STOP was non-existent. I was a mess when it came to parties and the thought of an event had this weight on my shoulders for days leading up to it trying to figure out how to manage 'myself'. (I know right? FFS).
I was so shit-scared of opening up to everyone about my pain on this – this black weight – my struggle and my desire to stop. I was so scared to just be me without alcohol, for how could I be anything but boring, bored and awkward? It was an unbelievably vulnerable situation to be in, and our culture is not very supportive of this type of thing (I believed) (** Tara's note: I hear ya, sister). I was a successful corporate career woman at a global tech company with a child, and I was a drunken mess. I was the story we brush under the rug when we advertise 'alocopops'. I coached a woman who sat across from me and fed me every story I had ever fed myself on how I could probably begin to moderate my drinking, and I realised that it was all B.S when I had said it myself.
Moderation was never going to work for me, and so I gave up completely because the pressure of feeling 'not OK' was too much, and guess what? I was so free afterwards, and there was applause and people were OK with it. They admired my strength and guess what? I am still funny, if not funnier.
Though I am a little awks at times. ;)
What turns you on?
My husband standing in front of me (his back is the fiiiiine). If he has one of my daughters in his arms then that's even better.
I grew up on Phillip Island where every guy was a surfer and that ability to surrender to Mother Nature as a form of meditation (which most don't even realise) is such a turn on because it is giving in to that which we cannot control. Sexy.
And man buns and Jared Leto.
What makes your blood boil?
Any type of prejudice. I simply cannot fathom how we can be so fearful as a race of people that we would seek out others to vilify, harm or humiliate. We are teaching our children prejudice, competition and fear every day, starting with our heads of government. At a base level, it is embarrassing. On a deeper level it burns in my soul and I hope deeply that we can make drastic change towards love in our lives.
How do you define confidence?
Accessing vulnerability and being OK with it. If someone is always deemed as the epitome of 'unbreakable' that to me, is not confidence. This says more about what is being pushed deep down and bubbling under the surface. Confidence is being able to express feelings as they occur, regardless of what they are because this gives them the freedom to leave our bodies and minds and so creates space and light and even more freedom within us.
When was the last time you experienced pure, unadulterated joy? Can you give us the juicy details?
One of my favourite books is Eckhart Tolle's 'The Power of Now'. He writes about the ability to have love in the 'now':
"They are inseparable from your natural state of inner connectedness with Being. Glimpses of love or joy or brief moments of deep peace are possible whenever a gap occurs in the stream of thought. For most people, such gaps happen rarely and only accidentally, in moments when the mind is rendered "speechless", sometimes triggered by great beauty, extreme physical exertion, or even great danger. Suddenly there is inner stillness. And within that stillness there is a subtle but intense joy, there is love, there is peace."
When I read this I immediately thought of the Dr. holding my brand new babies above me as they were born. It was like all breath had been removed from my body and I was falling, flying, "speechless". All sense of control or feeling for past or future were simply gone. I was truly within the moment for the first time since I was a child.
Now that I practice mindfulness I feel more closely with this but these moments eclipse anything I have ever felt.
Looking back, how have you most GROWN?
When I decided to stop worrying about what the rest of the world thought of what I knew I needed to do with my life and coming to peace with the fact that I am IT. No-one is 'me' and when I meet my maker when it all comes down to it, who gives a fuck if I don't do what everyone else is doing, or if I didn't go to the coolest new club opening. When I let go of a totally skewed view on what was important in life, I grew exponentially.
Combining my passions with a business I love makes me feel ...
I wrote this on my Facebook wall last night and got a bigger engagement than I ever have so I'll share it here also. Also, I am happier than I have ever been and I now feel so light in knowing that I've totally 'got this'.
"I sat here at my computer today and I realised that I will never work another day for another person or company unless I really want to.
And the ridiculous thing about this - because some people believe this is naive and elusive - is that I love what I do so much that at 32 years old I can easily say that I am retired, because certainly I won't be 'working' another day in my life.
To make something so awesome even better, I get to HELP people every day. I can change lives, help facilitate healing and bring joy or unlock freedom and release fear in people who need to let go. I get to be there along with my peeps and grab health and wellness, and contentment by the balls.
And I have never felt so much inner 'stillness'.
Imagine if you could have this for yourself. Now go and get it."
Few people know this about me, but I …
Am a total daredevil and have my full motorbike licence which allows me to ride any motorbike in the world...cue evil laugh and rubbing hands together.
When I was an angry teenager I used to put my motorbike helmet on, crank up to the highest speed I could and just scream into my helmet. I would inevitably start smiling from ear to ear because, as anyone who rides would know, it feels amazing.
I secretly wish I could ...
I don't secretly wish for anything anymore. I learned my lessons on that one. If I want something I put it out there because any idea or desire, no matter how great or virtuous means shit if we keep it inside us.
To me, the words 'Such Different Skies' mean ...
Sometimes it rains,there may be clouds, thunder, lightening or fog, but what we can forget very easily in life when we feel bogged down by small worries, or fear or 'shittiness' is that 100% of the time the sky is blue. Always.
Different people experience different skies at different times, but what we need to remember is that ever-constant blue, because, like shitty feelings, the rest will float away.
Alice Nicholls a Holistic Health Legend, Director of The Whole Daily and a Life Coach who supports women to live well, heal their body’s and love themselves. Alice created The Life Transformation Project, which is a complete 4 week immersion into mindfulness, meditation, movement and a cleansing lifestyle diet plan that lovingly supports a way for women to look after themselves and remove emotional blocks in their lives. Having coached and lectured to over 900 women in her role, Alice is building a following of women who connect with her message to ‘always go with love’. The Whole Daily was awarded as the Top Womens Empowerment Blog of 2013 and Alice has featured across International sites such as MindBodyGreen, Elephant Journal, Mamamia and on Network 10’s ‘Wake-Up’.
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