As I near the end of respectfully and gratefully wrapping up Such Different Vixens – an interview series which has been a pleasure to orchestrate over the past few years (I still have one more up my sleeve!) – I could barely think of someone more divine to bring on board.
Let me say that every time I go to write an introduction for the beautiful women I feature on this blog, I find myself stalling.
And I look at my blinking cursor.
And quite often, I think: Where the hell do I even start?
Today is absolutely no exception.
Maybe I'll start with this: I have so much love and warmth in my heart for Heather. Sincerely.
I can't explain it. The bond between us (one which started with Instagram likes, progressed to emails, and now, Skype calls) is incredibly strong and incredibly kindred. I don't have a sister, but this, I am sure, is the love that sisters might feel for each other.
I could listen to her speak (and sing!) and laugh all day. She is so loving and curious and unquestionably, she is here to 'do the work.' The light and dark, the buoyant and the dense – she is the personification of a seeker.
A seeker that serves, in big, beautiful ways.
Sometimes, when I watch her videos, I'm left looking at the screen and smiling long after she's finished speaking. This woman, she leaves an imprint on you.
Having just released her first published book, BodyPEACE (yeah, lady!), this interview is a celebration of her dedication and an ode to my adoration of her.
Heather Waxman, you heard it here first: I will jump on a plane for you.
: Share your Soul ::
Sum up your mission in one sentence.
To help people develop a deep connection with their intuition, awaken to their true magnificence, and transform their pain into peace.
Can you share with us one of your most vulnerable moments (and in hindsight, what made it so beautiful?).
I feel like I’m in a constant state of vulnerability, but in the last year, I’ve really started to find a home in vulnerability – to be excited to sink my teeth into it. Alanis Morrissette said it so beautifully: “I hate my own lying, and so I like getting to the bottom where there’s no lie left.” To me, that’s vulnerability at its finest: being willing to get honest about the lie so you can discover your truth.
I am teaching what I am learning, and that is so freakin’ terrifying sometimes! Right now, I’m teaching and learning BODYpeace, which is also the title of my new book (!!!). I am in a constant place of discovery and vulnerability with the channel that is my body. And right now, expressing my sexuality is the next stop for me on my BODYpeace journey. I grew up Catholic and expressing myself sexually wasn’t encouraged. As I got older, it left me feeling full of shame and confusion. So, now I’ve been diving deeper into the concept of sexuality (as it relates to BODYpeace) and exploring that with myself and with my boyfriend. It’s a beautiful monster to navigate.
The picture below of me posing topless was such a big moment for me. I didn’t flinch. I just embraced. I looked into that camera but really I knew that I was looking into the souls of the women who were going to read BODYpeace or see that photo. I wanted them to feel the support from me saying, “Yeah, girl! Your body is this miraculous vessel for love and pleasure. Honor it.” I was going to hold back on releasing those photos but now I think the more women who can see someone owning their sexuality in a powerful yet soft and feminine way, the better.
What turns you on - cranks your dial right the way UP?
Right now, it’s soul dancing to BANKS. Her new album Goddess is everything.
What makes your blood boil? (Honestly)
Lack of devotion (discipline with grace). That’s where the juice is, man! Put in the damn soul work.
How do you define ‘peace'?
The pocket of space in which I feel connected to myself, the Divine, and everything else on the earth. Limitless expansion. Those moments when I remember that tuning into my breath is enough to bring me to my knees.
Outbursts of ecstasy - the kind of belly laughs that leave you crippling over in agony from the sheer joy of it… What’s one of these memories that stand out for you?
Nothing has been able to top this one...
One night, I was playing Apples to Apples with two of my girlfriends at my friend Sarah’s house. We were playing in her porch, and there is a sliding glass door that leads into the kitchen from the porch. (Can you see where this is going?) I got up to get a drink and kind of jogged over to the sliding glass door and BAM! My forehead hit the sliding glass door and I fell to the floor. We literally laughed about it for 10 minutes straight. We couldn’t believe I didn’t notice the sliding glass door wasn’t open! I sometimes want to re-live that moment because it was just so freakin’ hysterical.
Looking back, how have you most GROWN?
As I peel away the layers of lies over my heart, I think the one that I’m most proud of actively releasing is this attachment to making my parents feel proud of me. Growing up, I was so attached to pleasing my parents and eliciting some sort of positive reaction out of them. I was addicted to it. Every time they said, “good job” or “I’m proud of you,” I would get high off of it and I craved more of it…but no amount was ever enough.
I credit my devotion to following the Divine’s plan for me my number one tool to recover from that. There is a prayer from A Course in Miracles that I use regularly: “Where would you have me go? What would you have me do? What would you have me say? And to whom?” When I catch myself trying to do things to get love, approval, and attention from others, I connect back to my breath and check in with my inner soul sister, and I ask the Divine to speak through her by answering that prayer. It works every time.
If we all looked up your name in a dictionary, what 5 words would we find to describe you?
:: QUICK & SLICK ::
Combining my passions with a business I love makes me feel ...
Truly alive. Endlessly grateful. Abundant in every sense of the word.
Few people know this about me, but I ...
am shamelessly in love with the TV show Pretty Little Liars. There is a “do not disturb” rule with my boyfriend and I when that show is on. Ha!
I secretly wish I could ...
Go on tour with Sara Bareilles. I’m a singer-songwriter too, and she is my biggest musical inspiration. She influences so much of my own stuff. She is an incredible songwriter and just a bad ass human being. I love how she balances being funny with being emotional and introspective. I’d love to open for her and duet with her. Sigh. That would be epic.
To me, the words 'Such Different Skies' mean ...
Embracing our individuality and our oneness in the same breath. We all look up at the same sky and we all live under the same sky and that is what makes us connected and that is what makes us one. But we all experience and see the sky differently, and that is what makes us individual. It’s such a beautiful mirror for our lives.
Heather Waxman is a multi-passionate soulpreneur. She wears many hats including life coach, writer, musician, and speaker. Heather has created a strong community of love and inspiration through her powerful blog posts and strong presence on social media. She is committed to helping people connect with their intuition, so they can show up for life as the happiest, most authentic version of themselves. Heather’s mission is to help people feed the world in their own words, and to know that true success comes when we first commit to a life of internal success.
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