Health coach. Life coach. Creativity coach. Something-relative-to-your-own-unique-gifts coach. If you’re looking to burst into the coaching scene with your fledging lil’ biz, this post is for you…
First off, let’s get one thing straight. As someone’s who been doing this coaching thing for no more than ten months, I’m hardly an authority on this topic, but what I know to be true is this:
When you’re fully immersed in something for the sheer reason that you feel compelled to be, and when this immersion calls forth a true sense of meaning, purpose and dharma, then it’s highly likely you’ve got something valuable to say.
And besides, if you’ve ever coached with me, or heard me speak at a gig, you’ll know that I have zero interest in being your guru, let alone a figure of authority. It will always be my intention to instead stand shoulder-to-shoulder next to you. Sisters unite.
Here’s a common fear I see swirling amongst up-and-coming coaches: “I’m worried that I’ll get asked a question I don’t know the answer to.”
I absolutely understand. This used to freak me out, too. What if I’m under qualified? What if I can’t find the right words to say? What if I can’t challenge my clients enough?
Here’s what I believe. You will more than likely attract the exact right clients for your skill set. Plain and simple. My first influx of clients (who I still save a space for in my heart) came to me with ‘stuff’ I knew I could guide them through, and they challenged me just enough to ensure that I could expand and grow (rather than implode!).
As the months have passed, the ‘stuff’ that my clients bring to the table has evolved, as has my skill set.
The Universe seems to respond to your new found confidence by giving it something to chew on. Think of it as a coaching-massage: your clients will come to you with knots in their back, and you’ll use your touch (in this case, your presence, your listening ability, empathy, optimism, strategic eye and a fresh perspective) to gently roll those knots out. The more experienced (and confident) you become, the bigger knots the Universe sends your way. They’ll take a little longer to work out, but it’s worth the effort.
This explains why you’ll often find that many of your clients will simultaneously be experiencing similar life situations, challenges and road blocks, and why (non) coincidentally, that very same road block is one you may have overcome very recently.
Coaching changes your whole relationship to pain and suffering. Rather than mulling in pain, you’ll allow yourself to feel it- you’ll investigate it. I swear to you, I’ve been through situations that have left me sobbing for days, only to find that a few days later, FOUR of my clients were experiencing something so similar, and they were unsure of how to see the light at the end of the tunnel. You play a role in that light. Bless your pain and hardship, and know that it’ll help someone you care about sooner than you think.
There are times of course when you’ll feel uncomfortably challenged. In day to day life, I’m all for following the discomfort and leaning out of our comfort zones, but I’m absolutely not down with coaching feeling uncomfortable- not as the coach in the relationship anyway. As the client, discomfort is a good thing, it’s growth! But as the coach? No. Coaching has to be a love-filled; laden with empathy and an open heart.
Know your limits. It’s okay to say ‘I don’t know’, and it’s absolutely okay to lovingly let go of a client who you feel in your heart isn’t suited to you and your line of work.
I’ve had to do this. It’s not easy, but it’s very, very essential- not only to their growth as a human being, but to your integrity as a business woman.
I know it’s all-too-easy to future trip over your about-to-be-born coaching biz. We worry about what we’re capable of, whether we’ll be appreciated, be valuable enough or praised enough. But I believe the single most important quality that makes for a powerful coach and a potent coaching session, is PRESENCE.
Quit future tripping babe, and instead, listen. Listen to your client like you’ve never listened before. Be there.
Coaching sessions rarely roll out as a formatted, rigid, Q&A type conversation, at least not in my experience. Yes, you’ll be responding to your client, but this can happen in a very natural, organic way. Let it be easy. If you’re fully preset, and energetically engaged, you’ll know what to say, and when.
Let your intuition work her sweet, sweet magic. She will not fail you.
Are you an up-and-coming coach or healer who’s facing fears of inadequacy and under-qualification? OR, are you from a different industry all together, but still gained value from this post? I’d love to hear from you in the comments below!
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