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The Busy Trap is Seductive, But Dangerous. Pull Back.

You know that busyness doesn’t necessarily equal success, right?

Then why are you still beating yourself up about how much you’re not achieving, not accomplishing, not placing a big, fat TICK! next to?

I’ve got an inkling as to why.

Firstly, and from the outside looking in, I’d say you’re probably dealing with some comparison issues, which, when you’ve been casting your attention Out There for too long, isn’t a difficult place to land in. The more we shift out focus from our inner world to our outer, the more we compare ourselves to others. Period. (Tweet it!)

But deeper than that, I reckon you’re *still* white-knuckle gripping an out-dated, conditioned, industrial age, bullshit belief that you are only as worthy as your body and brain are busy. In other words, whether consciously or not, you’re treating The Busy Trap as gospel.

If you haven’t already guessed, I’m on a bit of a mission to bust a cap in the ass of this mindset.

Because I’m tired. I’m tired of the people I mentor, care about, work with, and deeply love, falling prey to an external pressure that intensifies to such extremes that it begins to feel insular; like it’s electrocuting our cerebrospinal fluid, or something. (Too dramatic?)

And I’m also tired of us all leaning into our accomplishments for validation. Celebrate your success? Bloody oath! Allow yourself to be defined by them? Just… no. I will not stand for it. Not because your achievements are better than you, but because YOU (the real you) transcends any and all conceivable achievements.

And – surprise, surprise – I’m also tired of being so damn hard on myself, too. (You saw that coming, didn’t you?)

This is one of those topics that just simply needs a video; a little body language, a little extra expression, a little cheeky cheek. So without further ado…

CLICK PLAY and bid au revoir to The Busy Trap.


Even roller coasters include lame bends and corners which allow you to catch your breath and gather back a little of your sanity.

Life will scoop you up and make a run for it sometimes, but when it offers you a reprieve, an odd trough to break up the peaks, or even just a fricken plateau, take it! Take it with wide, open arms, and be thankful for the purposeful pause.

Your time to pounce back into the game is coming; momentum is building. For now, enjoy the presence of who you are in this world, find your bearings, cook yourself a nice meal, and heed the call when it feels right.

The whole point of this post: you have permission to slow down.


Who’s going to join me in devoting to the faith of divine timing, of quality rather than quantity? Let me know in the comments.

As always, all shares appreciated.

39 Responses to The Busy Trap is Seductive, But Dangerous. Pull Back.

  1. Belinda March 25, 2014 at 8:23 am #

    Thank you, Tara, for this reminder.

    I really needed to hear this today…


    • Tara March 25, 2014 at 9:05 am #

      Love you. Thinking of you. x

  2. Karla March 25, 2014 at 7:31 am #

    Babe! Your video was the perfect way to start my day before digging into Module Two of Bright-Eyed Blog-Hearted. After a few days of trying to do a million things at once I’m finally taking a step back and having no shame in accomplishing little bits day by day! x

    • Tara March 25, 2014 at 9:05 am #

      Happy to inspire, darlin x

  3. Lana March 25, 2014 at 9:10 am #

    Of course, this found me with impeccable timing – thank you darling girl, you shine! Going through B-school at the moment has got me reeling with all the things on my to do list, and this sense of urgency to get everything done has been wearing me down! Time to take a step back and breathe. xox

    • Tara March 25, 2014 at 9:00 pm #

      And…. exhale ! 😛

  4. Katie March 25, 2014 at 9:41 am #

    Sometimes I find myself using ‘I’m busy’ as such a lame excuse for not doing something I’m just not that keen on. Making a promise to myself right here, right now to stop using ‘busy’ as an excuse and instead saying a gentle ‘no’.

    • Tara March 25, 2014 at 8:57 pm #

      Your promise has been witnessed, and I am willing to testify 😛

      • Rose March 10, 2017 at 11:15 am #

         ( 2012.02.11 05:45 ) : This style is steller! You naturally know how to keep a reader amused. Between your wit and your videos, I was almost moved to start my own weblog (nicely, alHt!o…maHas) Amazing job. I actually enjoyed what you had to say, and a lot more than that, how you presented it. Too cool!

  5. Emmy Clews March 25, 2014 at 9:16 am #

    While watching this, I thought ‘is she talking to me?’ and you leaned forward, pointed your finger and said ‘I’m talking to you!’. This is the second time I’ve heard this message today and its 6.15am. Thank you, Tara. You’re ever-wise x

    • Tara March 25, 2014 at 8:57 pm #

      Hahaha! Please excuse my finger-pointing! It was a passionate moment! 😛

      And you are ever-lovely xo

  6. Alice March 25, 2014 at 10:58 am #

    Yes to being!

    I’m so with you today I have been feeling how the Universe knows exactly where I am, what I need and has my back. I realized I’m “Trusting” the flow. If I just relax and follow my inner knowing it all happens, I’ve experienced this before but today is like I’ve just discovered it, but while I’m here trusting I’ve seen a layer of this and its very much being in the “Now” being present to your life. Not trying to push the energy out as you said Tara…….allowing all the good to come to me and everyone else too.

    • Tara March 25, 2014 at 8:57 pm #

      Aboslutely – and the thing is, we all know when it’s time to hit the ground running – to make the first move – to go for it! It’s just that it can’t always be that way, and we can learn to not only accept that, but enjoy it 😀

  7. Ruby Pauwels March 25, 2014 at 11:37 am #

    Thank you Tara, exactly what we have been exploring on the blog recently so this is perfect timing. Divine timing some might say. Keep doing what you do. xx

    • Tara March 25, 2014 at 8:56 pm #

      I shall! You keep going too, won’t you?

  8. Nic - A Spectacular Life March 25, 2014 at 1:19 pm #

    Tara: This. Is. Brilliant.
    I loved it. I’ve recently started meditating at set times, and I have found that I am getting much more intuitive and recognising when ‘not to push’ as you say.
    This pull back in turn feeds and enhances my writing and creativity.
    So true, such a great vlog.
    Thank you

    • Tara March 25, 2014 at 8:55 pm #

      Nic babe, my pleasure. You. Are. Lovely. 😀

      • Della March 10, 2017 at 4:34 pm #

        Lorraine, when we were in NYC we stayed on a mooring ball at the 79th St Basin for $30 a night. It was on the Upper West Side, only a mile from Central Park and so close to evytrehing. A really great place to stay, and if you plan on going there next year just make sure to snag one of yellow balls, those are for transients. Fair winds on your next trip south.

      • pokemon go gps hack for android April 21, 2017 at 4:37 am #

        scrive:The Ships’s Voyages…I think technology just causes it to be worse. Now there is a channel to never ever care, now there is not going to be a opportunity for them to find….

  9. Tania - Seed Of Freedom March 25, 2014 at 4:10 pm #

    Such a timely message Tara. There feels like a new wave of energy that has come on board lately and it comes with your message to pull back, breathe and just chill. Thankyou xo

    • Tara March 25, 2014 at 8:55 pm #

      Welcome as ever Tania. Thank YOU xo

  10. Kamina March 25, 2014 at 6:15 pm #

    Wow. This absolutely resonated with me Tara. Last week, my coach (our Kelly!) challenged me to indulge in my ‘lazy’ Kamina and it was such an incredible breath of fresh AWESOME. To just let myself go, not worry about the fact that I couldn’t be bothered to wake up early to run, or write a blog post, or sit on my mindfullness stool. It helped me notice where life was pulling me, rather than focus on what I was pushing myself to achieve, and then beating myself up over it when I didn’t follow through. Thank you for reminding me why that felt as awesome as it did. This week is all about working out the kinks of my my new “routine” – wish me luck! Lots of love, your Bali sister x

    • Tara March 25, 2014 at 6:29 pm #

      Oh honey! I’m talking about ‘routines’ this Friday on the blog. Hehe. #synched. Love you so much and miss you! Hopefully I’ll see you this weekend in Sydney?! xo

      • Kamina March 26, 2014 at 7:15 pm #

        Absolutely! Can’t wait for a hug! xx

  11. Ness March 25, 2014 at 7:12 pm #

    This is really timely. But also hard. Tonight I have yoga. But im tired, and it’s rainy and cool, so part of me doesn’t want to go, but I’d also feel better if I went. How do I tell what is laziness (eg about yoga, or exercising or other things) and what is listening to my body?hmmm. Xx

    • Tara March 25, 2014 at 8:54 pm #

      Beautiful Ness, I mean this with ALL SINCERITY: You ABSOLUTELY know the difference between pulling back from the push, and laziness.

      You know. You just… know.

      We can feel it in our bodies when we’re being lazy. But slowing down? That feels like a reprieve – like gentleness – like the odd dose of self love.

      Sounds to me like you’re experiencing resistance rather than laziness, and you know what? Resistance always points to what’s most important. (I say, hit your mat. You’ll be smiling about it soon)


  12. Mandi March 25, 2014 at 8:28 pm #

    This is exactly what I needed. I’ve been feeling like I need to be doing more to get to my self imposed deadline but I know that I’m rushing it. I’ve actually just started to slow down too and start listening to what I need rather than what I should be doing and how busy I need to be. Thank you, Tara, for a beautiful blog post and video. You are beautiful!

    • Tara March 25, 2014 at 8:49 pm #

      You’re so welcome Mandi! Follow that pull.

  13. Kelly March 25, 2014 at 8:54 pm #

    F alse
    E vidence
    A ppearing
    R eal

    • Tara March 25, 2014 at 8:58 pm #

      Amen sister xo

  14. Katina March 26, 2014 at 12:06 am #

    thank you! i needed to hear this xx

  15. Katie March 26, 2014 at 3:30 am #

    Perfect words at the perfect time for me. I am feeling this expansive shift to slow down, allow, be. This morning – for some odd reason – I changed up my schedule and started the day not with Twitter and email, but with exercise and meditation. I was done with plenty of time to get to work. AND I FEEL GREAT! My head is clear, I’m not pushing and everything is flowing.

    That tiny shift of “slow down” has changed my entire day. Imagine what it could do to my life?

    Thank you, as always, for your brilliant encouragement to be my true self.

  16. Emma March 26, 2014 at 8:29 am #

    Love it! I have definitely felt this need to push, achieve and tick off the to-do list the last few weeks as things have slowed down work-wise. That uncertainty has left me in a mad panic. But I practiced this pulling-back business and I tell you, opportunities come out of the woodwork and the universe has supported me with exactly what I need, right now. It’s always perfect. We just need to accept it sometimes! <3

  17. Dannii March 26, 2014 at 10:00 am #

    Holy Shit Tara, you just know when to say the right thing that is resonating so completely in my life and i’m so grateful for you in this world. It is so important for us to be reminded that pulling back and not pushing is needed sometimes, and for me right now that means what I have done so far is enough -to get me through, and the inspiration will come..even though i’m completely paralysed-scared that it won’t..but trusting that (as you say) there is a time to create and push forward.. and obviously now isn’t quite that time – but that IT WILL COME. Trusting in that!! Thanks for the permission xx

  18. chantelle March 26, 2014 at 10:36 am #

    this message if super powerful for me at the moment. Thankyou Tara! love you xx

  19. Irena March 26, 2014 at 6:14 pm #

    Hi Tara

    Reading all these comments and I truly can’t believe how perfectly timed your messages are – it’s clear from everyone else’s remarks how well you understand oh we all feel. I am the winner of the Lorna Jane believe board competition and am oh so excited and grateful I’m being given the opportunity to chat with such an inspiration person! Your post on re-introducing meat into your diet has also been so insightful as I have recently been experimenting with vegan and vegetarianism.

    Thank you so much for your honest and heart warming posts, messages, videos etc.

  20. Rachel March 27, 2014 at 9:17 am #

    You articulate this so well and it was just what I needed to hear. Thankyou so much!

  21. Kylie March 31, 2014 at 1:31 pm #

    Love you Tara, and your fabulous no-nonsense advice! x

  22. Rebecca May 5, 2015 at 6:35 pm #

    If I’m being 100% honest I keep busy to distract me from the fear I have…Fear of not getting anywhere, the fear that maybe I wont make it and the fear of…well actually I dont know what I fear sometimes!

    Going slow and being present may from the outside seem like the easiest thing to do..but actually it takes a heck load of bravery!

    So thank you for giving that to find the brave in me 🙂

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