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I Can’t Be Anything Other Than What I Am. Neither Can You.

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We all have a story that is so sacredly our own.

Stories of struggle (to varying degrees, of course), and stories of great accomplishment, outright rapture, and intensity.

We also have great stories of contradiction that we may wrestle with on a day to day basis.

The busy mum who still takes those precious moments to tuck her child into bed, with patience and love.

The green-juicing twenty-something who battles with a lack of self confidence.

The high-earning corporate at her wits end, willing to trade all the dollars she’s earning for a slice of harmony.

And if you’re anything like me, you understand on a cellular level that the reason we are so unique; the reason we must all experience differing ends of the spectrum, is so we can learn and grow and evolve. We’ve got to navigate our own way through this life, and for it to be a grand adventure, there’s got to be some burn here and there.

Which is why we must have compassion and understanding for where each of us is at in our journey.

In the last six or so months online I’ve observed an underbelly of judgement.

It’s not your everyday, run of the mill comparison; resentment and severe separation sit at its extremities and I reckon enough is enough. So I’ve made a 6 minute video for you.

I’ve battled with pressing publish on this one, and truth be told, this was Take Two (a first for me – I normally record, then publish, no biggie). It’s a sensitive topic and I can only hope that I’ve laced it with enough true Tara, along with a side serve of compassion, and that you can feel the underlying message: Acceptance & Love.

What are your thoughts on this topic? I’d absolute LOVE you to share this video around, and leave me a comment below.

PS – Bali is AMAZING.

56 Responses to I Can’t Be Anything Other Than What I Am. Neither Can You.

  1. Jasmine October 11, 2013 at 9:10 am #

    🙂 🙂 🙂 Tara, I just have to say that I totally support you, totally support your vision, your mission, and your spreading of light. I hope that this video triggers something in MANY people because you are speaking so much truth here.

    One of my friends recently posted something on Facebook saying “The grass is pretty green over here too” … and I think that is the perfect reflection of what you are talking about. Life is such a beautiful gift and experience. Yes yes yes to finding your own experience of peace, in whatever form that looks like from the outside.

    As a mother, I can attest that there is plenty of joy, beauty, peace, and amazement to be had in this phase too.

    LOADS of love XOX

  2. Jenna October 11, 2013 at 9:15 am #

    I’m sorry you’ve been feeling resentment, but your beautiful video has inspired me. I’ve decided you need an action hero figurine – Tara Bliss, Joy Hunter! Instead of guns and tools and weapons, you carry a yoga mat slung across your back and a meditation cushion, and a hip belt with a pouch for crystals, a clip to attach a leak proof bottle with a green juice, and your super power comes from imparting joy and inspiration through hugs. Hey, if I get the time over the weekend I’ll send you a drawing of what I can see in my head!

    I think the internet works much more smoothly when sharing stories when video and interactive mediums are used instead of the written word. Don’t get me wrong I love writing (as you’ve probably picked up on from reading my stuff) but unless you have the time and care to write a lot to express your views and experience ( like a full blog post vs a tweet or a one line comment) meaning and intent gets lost so easily. Tone is almost impossible to convey in a universal sense, and offence can be taken personally even when you’re attempting to share to thousands at once. That coupled with a person’s own (possibly unidentified) case of comparisonitis is a pretty potent thing.

  3. Amelia {Nurture and Shine} October 11, 2013 at 9:27 am #

    Love, love, love, love, LOVED this!!! We are all doing our best to live our life our way… and we should all be embracing our own sacred journey. I’m glad you pressed publish – I could feel nothing but love with this video. Thank you, beautiful. xx

  4. Alison October 11, 2013 at 9:28 am #

    I would LOVE to read a book, written by you, called: Joy Hunter : ) Thank you for a lovely video; it’s a wonderful reminder.

  5. Samantha October 11, 2013 at 9:46 am #

    Thank you so much for sharing Tara! What a beautiful message and you handled yourself beautifully and with grace. It is unfortunate that some people feel inclined to lash out at others who are living their purpose instead of going out and finding the things that give them joy. You are an inspiration, thank you for continuing to spread your message and living your life on your terms! xo

  6. Shani October 11, 2013 at 9:53 am #

    Tara I love that your courage lead you to create and post this. I don’t have any type of online business so I’m writing from an angle of an observer and participant rather than someone in any inner circles, and from this perspective, something I find so amazing about the online world at this point in time, is that it grants access to the offerings of sooooo many.
    This enables us to find our ‘tribe’ (or several tribes) so much more readily than ever before. There are many life or health or wellness coaches, or business building experts and leaders etc. etc. and we have such abundant choice to connect with those we really resonate with – our tribe. If one person doesn’t quite sing to our spirits the way we’re looking for, the chances are there are others who will, because there is greater and greater access and more and more people stepping up to engage.
    It feels like a really natural, and really quite gobsmackingly wonderful, gift of the way the world is unfolding these days – many ‘tribes’ gathering together online (and off too!), as more and more people step up to sharing their gifts and spirits and businesses online, all shifting and changing in time as we each journey through our lives and their stages. Evolution.
    (We’ve spoken about all this before!).
    On a personal note I’m so grateful that you are here, you write the words you do, your deep authenticity, that you are exactly who you are, in all it’s permanence AND evolution. It has and does make a material difference to my spirit and therefore my world, and I don’t know that there’s any greater gift to give others than to authentically enrich all spirits and lives of those around us.
    Big inflated heart thanks 🙂 xox

  7. Astrid October 11, 2013 at 10:00 am #

    Thank you for your beautiful message Tara! I loved what you shared in the video. it made so much sense to me and clarified the importance of embracing our own journeys & focusing on seeing the joy in life. It is a choice! Your message came from the heart & I could sense your true caring spirit for others. Blessings to you & thank you to Amelia for sharing xx

  8. Kimberley October 11, 2013 at 9:08 am #

    I could not love you any more than I do. Thank you for being brave and pressing publish babe. xx

  9. Juliet Turalski October 11, 2013 at 9:16 am #

    <3

  10. Vicki October 11, 2013 at 9:17 am #

    Hi Tara, I think it’s a shame when your message is so clearly positive and supportive that there is a vibe of judgement, if people are feeling negative about what you’re doing they should step away from the space as it’s obviously your pure heart intention to spread light to those you connect with. Personally, you have been one of the single most beneficial, love filled catalysts in my life… ever. Thankyou for being you and for encouraging me to be me. Love you!!

  11. kirri @ Kirri White Coaching October 11, 2013 at 10:32 am #

    You know I am a mum T, and was already a mum at your age. I don’t have the ‘luxury’ of going on retreats or doing yoga for two hours a day or working 10 hour days etc etc BUT does that mean that I need to compare my journey to yours (with judgement) – NO! Does it mean that I will let my perceived time limitations detract from my personal spiritual fulfillment, my own self care or entrepreneurial dreams…again, NO!

    I will just rock it in my own way….just as you are doing. It’s all about taking responsibility for our own lives and focusing on the commonalities that we all share. When we do that, the need to judge harshly, all but slips away.

    You always deliver with compassion. xx

  12. Elizabeth/ Your Highest Self October 11, 2013 at 9:38 am #

    Yep. I saw you uploaded this yesterday on YouTube and promptly watched it. Honestly the best thing I’ve listened to in such a long time. I felt relief. So much relief. Minimal speech today. Relief!

  13. Sophia October 11, 2013 at 10:42 am #

    Tara,

    This message has touched me so much! I can totally sympathise with this feeling despite our differences. I am an almost 29 year old mother of 2 (3&1), but I have drawn so much incredible inspiration from you in the past few months. I have never interpreted your message as anything other than encouragement to live with passion and joy.

    We can’t all be the same (how boring anyway!) and we can’t please everyone. Those facts don’t make these kinds of feelings and judgements much easier to swallow though unfortunately!

    Keep doing what you’re doing. You’re awesome. Thanks for being so brave and posting this message. I am so inspired.

    I’m hoping to organise a time to do a healing session with you when you get back so I hope to meet you soon 🙂

    Have a great time in Bali honey!

    With Love & Gratitude!
    Sophia x

  14. Amy // Peace of advice October 11, 2013 at 10:22 am #

    Thank you Tara.

    What a beautifully compassionate message. Any judgement is coming from a place of fear, and fear is best remedied with intense compassion and empathy – which you exude here. This is a moment by moment journey – thank you for the reminder this morning.

    Amy xo

  15. Ashlee October 11, 2013 at 11:28 am #

    I just love you! Thank you for keeping it real Tara. You’re a true angel xx

  16. Donna October 11, 2013 at 10:51 am #

    Miss Tara Bliss, if i were to describe you in one word, there is one prominent word that jumps out at me immediately… And that is INCREDIBLE!! You’re such an inspiration!! I truly admire and respect your honesty and openness. It is such a shame that people are comparing themselves to others (although, admittedly I for one am still working on this, with your amazing help through PGG2P & Spirited), and in particular displaying resentment. You put it beautifully, that everyone has had their own life experiences and everyone is on their own journey. The fact that you’re putting yourself out there to help us on our journey in any way shape or form is such a huge credit to you. I believe that like attracts like, and as such, you’re going to (mostly) attract those who you can inspire, motivate and have an enormous impact on.
    For those who are comparing themselves to you and possibly even showing resentment, they obviously haven’t found their muse or inspiration yet (and by the sounds, have quite a lot of their mean girl chattering to them in the background). And most definitely hope they do find an online presence who fits their beliefs, experiences and/or situation, because having someone to look up to and respect, as I do you, is such an incredible thing!!!
    Keep doing what you’re doing gorgeous girl!! Your truly an amazingly inspiring, motivating, and incredibly genuine and authentic soul. Sending loads if love your way.
    Donna 🙂 xx

  17. Sarah October 11, 2013 at 11:59 am #

    Beautiful message Tara! Keep spreading the Love! Sarah

  18. Kristen October 11, 2013 at 11:18 am #

    Oh Tara. This is a powerful message. You have responded so lovingly and you have delivered with such great compassion. Keep shining your beautiful light. I love you.

    Kristen

  19. Jade October 11, 2013 at 11:18 am #

    Ooh this is the controversial video! (so far so good with the comments!)

    I think this actually part of a much deeper issue, and that is that as a society our meaningful interactions with other human beings is getting less and less, whilst the amount of information, advertising and images of people living ‘better’ lives than we are gets more and more.

    Everyday we’re bombarded with so much information implying we’re not good enough, and feeling deeply not good enough is so ingrained in us and is fact a vital part of our economy (how gross. an economy based on not good enough-ness, but I digress) that so so so many people out there feel deeply unhappy and dissatisfied with their lives.I’d say the people whose resentment your picking up on and part of a greater paradigm of not good enough-ness, and probably don’t even realise that what they’re doing isn’t nice.

    I’m sure everyone who has written to you has a very convincing story about why you’re wrong, why they’re right, and why they need to tell you this!

    I think that you, and people like you, are easy targets because you’re accessible in that your contact info is readily available, you’re public in as much as you have public profiles, you’re a ‘real’ person (rather than a faceless corporation who wouldn’t even notice), and yet the person writing to you doesn’t know you personally so feels freed of the consequences.

    And we forget that there’s a real life human being reading the comment or email, and feel free to say what we want to people online. (This might work both ways, I probably seem nicer online than I do in real life because I feel free to be all “OMG! You’re awesome!” but might feel too shy/too English to do that in person)

    Also, I think that working in your field is more likely to bring this kind of stuff up in someone, as you work in an industry that people are drawn to when they feel unhappy in some way (no offense or disrespect to people who work with you; I have a life coach, have worked with loads of healers, and my mum’s a healer, but I know that I don’t book sessions with them just to tell them how great my life is, I go to them when I need help)

    So by the very nature of your industry, I’d imagine that a lot of people who visit your site are going to be unhappy in some way, and then project their unhappiness onto you when they see that you have a nice life, but your life feels out of reach to them.

    And finally, as lovely and light-spreading as your work is, one has to be at an appropriate vibration to feel that. If one’s vibration is too low they can’t appreciate what you or your peers are doing.

    As a personal example, about a month ago I went to Spain to live and ended up having the worst time I’ve had in a long time (the job I’d gone to do disappeared, the company f*cked me about, I was borderline homeless, blah blah blah) and I couldn’t appreciate your message from that place. When I was crying by a river because my life and dreams were falling apart, I didn’t find self centred sundays inspiring, they just reminded me that my life felt shit. I wasn’t finding smoothie recipes or affirmations inspiring, they just annoyed me because the place I was coming from was too low to appreciate them.

    So whilst I can see that opening an email saying mean stuff is horrible for you, I can appreciate where people are coming from when they do it. Not that it’s right in any way, shape or form and it would be much better for them to take responsibility for their feelings, and really honestly look at why they feel how they do, but I’ve been there, and it ain’t a nice place to be.

    I’m intrigued, how do you feel when you get those messages, and how do you handle it? Do you respond, or block the person, does it make you doubt your work, do you brush it off and carry on doing your thang?

    xxxxx

    ps. Hope you’re having a great time in Bali.
    pps. Hello lovely tan and glowy skin! If that’s not an advert for healthy eating I don’t know what is!

  20. Emmy October 11, 2013 at 11:20 am #

    Thank you for posting this Tara! I love your message – we really can’t be anyone but us. So simple but a message we all miss at certain points in life. I can only wonder how you got to be so wise. You’re definitely a trail blazer for other women who are trying to hunt their own joy.

  21. Alana October 11, 2013 at 1:06 pm #

    So much mega love for this vid, Tara. Just beautiful, and so clearly from the heart, and brimming with wisdom. You shine. XO

  22. Erin October 11, 2013 at 1:24 pm #

    No tree has branches so foolish as to fight among themselves. We are each a branch on this tree, and we all have our own spot to grow. And like the branches on a tree, we need to depend upon each other to expand and lengthen. By comparing we are using up energy that could otherwise be used in seeing our branches shooting upwards towards the sun. Each of us is part of the tree. As you have found flowers and leaves where the branches were once bare, so too will others.

  23. Erica October 11, 2013 at 1:37 pm #

    Hi Tara, I felt compelled to write you a note after watching that.
    Firstly I am over it as well, online, in the real world etc. I try (like you do) to surround myself with positve ppl and environments.
    Secondly I am pretty shocked, that people would imply, or say this about you or your message, blog etc. Since discovering the world of Such Different Skies, I have admired you sharing your story, bringing light, and showing that everyone has choices. I have ‘never’ got the impression or would think that your message was ‘look at my life, you should do it this way’ nor would I ever think that you would make out you know what every other person’s situation is like. I really don’t know if these people have been watching the same posts and blogs. Maybe that is just my opinion.
    I love what you do, love your outlook, and I admire you in many ways for choosing the life that you wantd, the life that brings love and happines, and I thankyou for sharing what you do.

  24. Olivia October 11, 2013 at 1:50 pm #

    Absolutely loved this Tara! Really felt where you were coming from. You spoke so beautifully and from the heart xoxo

  25. Amy ~ True Shining Self October 11, 2013 at 1:55 pm #

    Oh Tara, I LOVE this, thank you!! Please keep sharing your beautiful story and light, your message of joy and passion is so very inspiring. Thank you for sharing your struggles and your high points, it’s raw and real and needed. Massive love to you xxx

  26. Jen // Creating a Colourful Life October 11, 2013 at 2:36 pm #

    LOVE this Tara! I often remind myself that we are all on our own unique journey & my life does not need to look like anyone else’s – nor does anyone else need to create a life like mine. It’s about creating a life that you love – that brings you joy & is meaningful to you. Thank you for putting this out there, honey. xx

  27. Clare October 11, 2013 at 4:29 pm #

    Tara, Thankyou! I agree this is topical. But the most important things usually are and it is easy for people to shy away from them. Thankyou for speaking out and being grateful for what you have and the place you are in. There really is no one better suited to be us than.. us! Thankyou, you’re spreading a beautiful light xx

  28. Jess October 11, 2013 at 3:56 pm #

    Beautifully said Tara. It is so important for you to do what you do! The number of people you are helping and inspiring far out ways any negative ‘perception’ that someone might have. keep blazing that trail.

  29. Belinda October 11, 2013 at 6:53 pm #

    You and I talk about this a lot, Tara. So I’m glad you are going public with it. xo.

  30. Kylie October 11, 2013 at 8:02 pm #

    Hi Tara, it looks like your video has struck a chord with many, and I just want to add my voice to the chorus. A deep thank you for your honesty and courage in sharing this. Your commitment to honouring yourself and your path is a true inspiration to me. When I’ve had a particularly draining day with work/study, visiting the light-filled space you have created here always helps to fill me up again. Keep on blazin’, honey. Big love x

  31. Sarah October 11, 2013 at 9:12 pm #

    What a great post Tara! Personally I find you inspiring. I love that you are exactly who you are and you courageously and passionately get out there, do your thing and share your light and love.

    I understand the feeling you speak of – I have worked with a lot of people in a coaching / leadership role and have seen similar mindsets expressed time and time again – not just about lifestyle and being happy in life but also about work performance, other people’s success and the organisation I worked for in general.

    I reckon the people who have this type of dialogue in their head all the time and speak it so easily, without real contemplation and self-reflection or a willingness to honestly try another perspective on deserve a whole lot of compassion. Because getting stuck in these negative mindsets is such a kill joy…to them and those around them. I wish everyone could see that we all only live this life once and it is a gift and we can make of it what we choose, so why not make it a happy, fulfilling and wonderful one?! I often wished they could see a glimpse of what their mindset looked like from the outside and how different their life could be.

    Being able to see this from a coaching kind of role has certainly been a great reminder for me to check where I was at and introspectively scan for my own self-limiting beliefs. And of course, I have plenty and I’m not perfect, but I am always seeking freedom, peace and happiness through more meaningful and helpful ways of thinking.

    So kudos to you for helping people find their bliss and being an inspiration by sharing your own. Keep on being your awesome self sista! Sending my love and gratitude to you and all of your beautiful, brave words. Cheers!

  32. Kate//Word Love October 11, 2013 at 9:39 pm #

    So glad you pressed publish + shared this message. Thank you for adding to the world in exactly the way you do.

  33. Claire // This is Lifeblood October 11, 2013 at 11:39 pm #

    Yeah fucking yeah babe. Loved this xx

  34. Corona October 12, 2013 at 12:27 pm #

    You are just such a beautiful soul. Thank you so much for this. So happy you shared your message here. Thanks for being in my life. Massive love xxxx

  35. Clare October 12, 2013 at 1:46 pm #

    Wow, you took my breath away. Such a raw and powerful vblog. Tara, you’re amazing. I love the message you spread. x

  36. Naomi October 12, 2013 at 4:18 pm #

    Thanks for sharing and speaking your mind Tara. In the time I’ve followed you and your journey, you’ve inspired me to better myself and I’m so grateful for that… keep sharing your light and joy, we appreciate it so much xx

  37. Steph October 12, 2013 at 10:26 pm #

    There is nothing self indulgent about living your most authentic, joy seeking life. Go blaze brightly girl, haters gonna hate, that’s the balance to all the beautiful souls you inspire. Big love x

  38. Amy October 12, 2013 at 10:53 pm #

    Thanks for a great vid. X

  39. Danika Jane October 14, 2013 at 10:47 am #

    Thank you for having the courage to share this beautiful and gracious message Tara. I absolutely adore your mission. With love & gratitude, Danika. xx

  40. Peta Kelly October 14, 2013 at 2:21 pm #

    Tara. You are my hero.
    Thank you for being exactly who you are, and for encouraging me to find out who I am
    Much love

  41. Ruth October 14, 2013 at 5:26 pm #

    Its interesting how blazing your own path can bring up others ego or pain when the real message is inspiration. Keep doing what you do, nothing but inspiration here! x

  42. Tahra Golightly October 14, 2013 at 5:33 pm #

    Hi Tara, I just wanted to say thank you for being so open and honest! You not only inspire me to find my own true light within you also inspire me to be more open and honest with my thoughts and feeling when it comes to sharing them. I have been following you for only a few weeks now, I actually found you while searching for inspiration on MNB and found your book Spirited. I felt your whole hearted love straight away and feel real gratitude for you. Just this morning i was feeling a bit ahhhh myself and wanted to look at your blog to see if i could find something to help me reconnect with myself and i did find exactly that. You continuously remind me to honour my own personal journey and not compare myself to others, which i think we can easily do if we don’t remind ourselves of our unique existence. So Thank you for being you and always shedding the light in an honourable way. I am so far away (in Spain) and yet i feel so close to you when you talk, like you’re talking to me. I know you’re not heheh but I choose to believe you are for that short moment 🙂 Thank you!

  43. Sarah October 14, 2013 at 9:56 pm #

    I love this!

  44. Lors October 14, 2013 at 10:45 pm #

    Good stuff mate, NAMASTE You so brown 😀 xx

  45. Kamina October 15, 2013 at 10:21 am #

    I really needed to hear this today Tara – thank you so much for sharing this. I feel so privileged to be on this Bali journey with you. Love from the little hut downstairs, Kamina x

  46. Jess October 16, 2013 at 11:37 am #

    I’m glad I took the time to watch this, such a beautiful post Tara. I love what you do and I appreciate your willingness to spread your love and light into this world, keep at it! I’m sure you know this, but your blog posts are so insightful and filled with widsom, I really enjoy coming over here to be inspired. I always leave feeling so refreshed. Thank you Tara x

  47. Carly October 17, 2013 at 3:21 am #

    Amazing video Tara – very heartfelt and rings true. You are just simply doing the best you can with what you have right now. If that sparks jealousy it isn’t your fault. I’m a recent follower but loving your vibe 🙂

  48. Ebony October 20, 2013 at 4:20 pm #

    Hi Tara,

    thank you so much for being brave enough to post this. It can be scary thing to declare your path in life and make no apologies for it.

    While the tribe of women who I follow inspire me enormously, I too have been harbouring this horrible resentment deep down that I cannot live like they do.

    Your message of simply being inspired by their passion for life is spot on. We don’t all need to follow the same path as our inspirations, but simply be inspired by their light and apply it to our own lives.

    Much love xoxo

  49. Lori October 21, 2013 at 12:59 pm #

    You are SO brave, living your life and then putting it out there for all to embrace,or not. (My oranges and yellows are just off the charts right now)
    I am a Mom, a single Mom and a stay at home one at that. I embrace you, and your beautiful message wholeheartedly. I try my best everyday to spread the same message that you do, and every time I hit that “share” button, I sometimes cringe at the “feelings” that flood me. However, I persevere because it is a message that transcends all kinds of good things in life, and we, for whatever reason, have been programmed to accept it as unnatural……
    I just went through the same thing this week and today just came up with my solution. Some fresh new “dance like nobody is watching” tunes on the ipod, notably Lily Allen’s “Fuck You”……….the cancan is a perfect fit 😉
    Love, light, sparkles and bubbles to you. xo

  50. Gemma October 23, 2013 at 10:53 am #

    Amen sister, you are such an amazing and inspiring woman!! wise beyond your years that’s for sure!! Just keep following your bliss, shining your light, because for every person out there who doesn’t get your message, there are hundreds that do!

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  52. Lauren October 27, 2013 at 7:10 pm #

    Hiya gorgeous one,
    I have had this post open as a tab for the past couple of weeks thinking ‘yes, Lauren, when you have time, sit down and listen’. Putting it off, putting it off, putting it off… Just watched, timed to perfection.
    You are a blazing reminder of old wisdom. I too have no children and told I don’t know what that life is like, and that’s just it – I don’t! This resonated so deeply. I feel I am (albeit very slowly) finding my joy and starting to finally let go of whatever ‘that’ purpose is. It will find me, I will find it, and everyone wins.
    Keep lighting the way
    xxx

  53. Hayley Carr November 12, 2013 at 12:30 am #

    So much love for you in this moment x

    • Tara November 12, 2013 at 9:39 am #

      And for you, my girl x

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